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Rape, Slut Shaming, Victim Blaming

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This is the best book I have ever read... and I have a lot to say about it and what it is about (rape, slut-shaming and victim-blaming):

Laugh at Yourself! Don't Take Yourself So Bloody Seriously!!!!

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Island Girl

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I guess I'm officially an island girl.  For about a month and a half I've been sculpting out my new life on the island of Mallorca, Spain. It hasn't been easy, although the photographs I take will tell you otherwise.  Not long after the passage from Italy to Spain on the 32m motoryacht I called home for a month of my new life and world, I quit. I'm not really at liberty to say what happened, nor should it really matter - it just wasn't where I was supposed to be.  Quitting the boat was a combination of both the toughest decision I have ever made, and yet the easiest. On the one hand, the job was perfect for me. It was permanent, with a fantastic salary and it was (is) based in Mallorca.... so I would have been close to my man who is based here too.  There were so many postives to the position but at the end of the day I had to make risky sacrifices for my overall happiness.  As much as I miss the stability of a job with an incredible salary  both in summer ...

Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert: A Book Review

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Wow wow wow! Just finished reading the absolutely incredible book, Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert.  How do you actually sum up your favorite book??? How do you do it justice? I had tried to read this book a number of times when I was younger and just couldn't get into it - although I'd thoroughly enjoyed the movie.  I have no idea what took me so long to finally pick such a gem of a book up and enjoy it totally (perhaps because it starts with her being miserable about her divorce and lately I've been battling my way through my failed engagement) but I am so happy I finally did. What an inspiring piece of writing! It was fascinating to read about all of the places I have already been fortunate enough to visit like Italy and Bali.  In particular, I thoroughly enjoyed the Bali section of the book and it was mind-blowing to read about the Balinese healer Wayan Nuriasih in Ubud who I actually visited during my travels there last year. If you are ever in Bali, please pay th...

I'm Moving to Europe!!

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The last month has been an absolute whirlwind.  Right now I am supposed to be a wife. A barefooted housewife pottering around the kitchen preparing dinner for my hubby in a humble log cabin nestled in a tiny town in South Africa. When I envision this, I am already one month pregnant. Probably a son.  I'd have called him Maverick (no, not after the strip club which said hubby would more than likely frequent... after a wave. A very big wave to surf in California. There's the surfer girl coming out in me!) Instead, I am more free than I have ever been. "Don't ask her why she needs to be so free... she will tell you it is the only way to be." I have paid off all of my debt, snipped up my account cards, resigned from my job of three years, given notice at my gorgeous flat where I can lie in bed and listen to the ocean roaring at night. I opened up my life savings and instead of doing what I normally do (buying flights to some exotic paradise like Siargao in the Philipp...

Baked Salmon and Asparagus Foil Parcel

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Last night I made such an incredible, tasty, quick and easy dinner (my usual meal for one saga.....) I just had to share it with you all.  What you will need: - Salmon (or your preferred fish) - Asparagus - Black Olives - Lemon (thinly sliced) - 2 Garlic Cloves (minced) - Salt and Pepper - Olive Oil - Rosemary - Aluminium Foil Pre-heat your oven to 400 degrees. Holding your asparagus spears in your hands, bend them until they naturally snap at the point separating the tender top part and the tough bottom part. Tear a generous piece of foil from the aluminium foil roll and fold in half, placing it in the middle of your baking tray.  Curl the edges of the foil to form a square just large enough to lay your asparagus in. Drizzle some olive oil over your asparagus spears once they are in the tin foil.  Mince up a clove of garlic and sprinkle it over the asparagus, seasoning with salt and pepper. Slice the sides off of some black olives - removing the pips- and scatter them on...

What I Want To Do In Life

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There comes a time in everyones life where everything falls apart.  It's how you deal with it that defines you.  When my world was turned upside down I became an absolute train-wreck. I handled everything so wrong. It's funny how it takes a couple of months to realise what we should have been doing all along, rather than wallowing in self-pity and drowning in gin and tonics. My fiance had disappeared. My wedding was booked and paid for. My wedding dress was dangling in my cupboard, the diamante's sparkle hidden beneath its bag. I had framed photographs that seemed to pop up left, right and centre. Cards and letters, memories of my life and the life I should have had that floated around my life in a bubble of confusion and regret. For months I wondered what I had done so wrong. How could this have happened? I blamed myself completely for not being good enough; for not being able to make him happy. I went through a colossal amount of self-doubt and I let it take over for so m...